If you’re reading this you’ve probably already researched countless blogs describing ways to intrigue people while still seeming mysterious. Those tips haven't worked and you’re getting desperate. Or you’re from my YouTube channel and you’re here to represent. Let’s Go, Awkward Turtles! Either way, I’ve been where you are and I’ve struggled with starting meaningful conversations.
So if you also have this problem, keep reading. I’m going to share the advice I give myself whenever I’m having an awkward conversation.
First of all, watch this video I made on how to start a friendly conversation:
What does that even mean? I say awkward phrases even in the written form where I can correct myself.
You should focus on your confidence and emotions in a more meaningful conversation because the person wants to get to know you, and not the version of you that you created to deal with people around which you’re uncomfortable.
If you concentrate on what you're going to say next to make things less awkward, you’ll miss everything that the other person says. But if you focus on how their words make you feel, you’ll be more likely to sympathize with them and connect with them in a way that neither of you has experienced before.
I made the “How to Start a Friendly Conversation” video to help people with social anxiety overcome their fear and reach out to others without added pressure. However, if you want to have a truly impactful connection, talk about subjects that give you a powerful emotion. This will help you trust the person you’re conversing with, and they’ll share a deeply personal gem from their life in return.
Be sure to check out this Ted Talk on how to listen and have a productive conversation. (No, I didn't make it, hahaha):
“How to Have a Better Conversation”