Introverts and extroverts. Everyone has heard about these two types of personalities. Introverts are reclusive weirdos that hang out alone on the internet, and extroverts are obnoxious party animals that always need to be the center of attention. Or, at least, this is how both personalities are perceived by the other.
But today I want to talk about the true difference between introverts and extroverts. As well as how you can improve your skills in the personality that you are not.
Also, if you would rather listen rather than read about this subject, I created a podcast on the subject, which you can listen to by clicking the image below:
Introverts are thought of as people that stick to themselves and are afraid of social interaction. I'm going to list out and explain three things that introverts aren't:
#1: Introverts are afraid of social interaction
This is not true. What many people think of as an introverted trait is actually either someone being socially awkward, or someone having social anxiety. When a person is afraid of social interaction, that is not an introverted trait. Introverts like social interaction, but they are drained by being around other people for too long.
#2: Introverts are loner weirdos
This really depends on the introvert. Me for example, I'm a loner weirdo. (Life's all about honesty.) But many introverts just prefer to spend time on their own, even if they enjoy talking with friends and family. It really depends on the introvert.
#3: Introverts hate other people
Again, this depends on the person. But many introverts do like other people, especially people they know and are comfortable with. Still, social interactions take a great deal of effort for introverts. They're drained by social interaction instead of thriving off of it.
Now that we've talked about what introverts aren't, let's turn the light onto extroverts. Extroverts aren't:
#1: Extroverts are party animals
Just like loner weirdos for introverts, this myth should be taken with a grain of salt. Some extroverts are party animals, and some are not. Many extroverts just prefer to other people, regardless of a party setting.
#2: Extroverts need to be the center of attention
I think instead of applying this only to extroverts, this perception should be applied to both personality traits. Because whether introvert or extrovert, most people want to feel that they're the center of attention. This isn't a selfishly bad thing. It's a human thing, and you should be wary of it without being afraid of being the center of attention.
#3: Extroverts always say the right thing
This isn't true at all. You can be an extrovert and always say the wrong thing. The only difference is that extroverts tend not to admit that they're upset by what they said. I've noticed that introverts tend to admit when they say or do something awkward. But the thing is, if you don't admit it, no one will know. And extroverts know this secret more often than introverts.
Whether an introvert or an extrovert, it's important to understand the best of both worlds. If you're an introvert, force yourself to talk to someone new. If you're an extrovert, spend some time alone. In the end, you're a person who knows how much social interaction you need. So go with your instinct, and don't let other people make fun of you for staying inside reading a book all day, or for dancing on a table at a party.
Let me know in the comments if you're an introvert or an extrovert. How do you feel about your personality? Is there something you don't understand about the other personality type?