All of my friends throughout the years have told me that I have resting bitch face. If you don’t know what that is: the phenomenon of resting bitch face occurs when one’s natural resting face looks angry as fuck.
My RBF - what nobody calls it except me - makes it so that people, and especially strangers, keep their distance. And most of the time I like this. If you read my previous blog about doing selfless good deeds, you know that I’m incredibly self-involved. So for strangers to leave me alone isn’t a big deal.
Occasionally I care to partake in certain verbal discussions when I’m not being a complete loner. However, my standoffish personality and naturally bitchy resting face keep this from happening. So if you also have this problem, continue reading to learn how to become more approachable to strangers.
First, tell yourself that this conversation will have no drastic consequences. I have a habit of speaking when I shouldn’t, cutting people off, and walking away in the middle of a conversation. Because of this, I oftentimes have anxiety when a stranger talks to me.
In order to prevent this anxiety, remind yourself that this is just a conversation If you’re relaxed and nonchalant instead of stressed and overwhelmed, the person approaching you will remain just as calm.
Watch the video below to learn “5 Steps on How to Stop Walking Away in the Middle of Conversations:”
Second, my body language. When I’m stuck in my own thoughts and don’t want to be approached, I tend to hunch over and stand away from other people. When I want to have a conversation with someone new, I still stand apart; I like my personal space, what can I say?
However, when I want to appear friendly I straighten my posture and face the person with whom I want to speak.
If you also want to seem approachable, it’s important to be aware of your body language. Do you appear confident or shy? Do you seem like you’d be funny or serious? I bet you imagined certain
Lastly, my resting bitch face. It’s really something that never truly goes away. But it’s also something you don’t need to overcome. Just like your body language, it’s important to be aware of your resting bitch face and use it to your advantage.
If you want people to leave you alone, unlike people with normal faces, it’ll come across naturally on your expression. Congratulations, you don’t have to do anything! But if you do want strangers to approach you, think of a funny memory. What’s the one thing that always gets a laugh out of you?
If you need a funny memory, watch the video below showing how to make a pad out of toilet paper. I guarantee that’ll have you laughing for minutes.
Do you have your funny memory? Focus on that and only that. What were the specific circumstances that made you laugh?
Ah, I see that smile on your face. And that’s exactly how it works. Now that you’re smiling and not scowling, friends and strangers will be much more likely to approach you.
Whether you’re awkward and have a bitchy face or not, the best way to become approachable to strangers is to be aware of yourself and use your knowledge of stress reduction, body language, and facial expressions to the best of your advantage.
Now excuse me while I stand in a corner by myself and look bitchy.