don’t believe that there are any selfless good deeds. The person doing the favor always gets something in return, even if it’s just a good feeling for doing a nice thing for another person.
However, as a selfish individual, I can easily recognize when an activity gives benefit to someone else. Today I want to help you accept the offer when someone needs help, and how to stop feeling like you are wasting your time on someone else.
I know, it’s so hard to do something nice for someone else (she stated sarcastically). Actually, it can be difficult to do things for other people if you’re selfish like me. While you may want to reach out and help your friends because it’s a nice thing to do, you may see no benefit for yourself, and thus you will not do the good deed.
This doesn’t seem like a big deal. After all, you rarely ask people for help and you’re doing just fine. Well, that’s precisely the problem. When a person lends a helping hand to another person, these two form a greater bond of trust because the latter individual can now rely on the former of they’re in a bind. And while that all may sound like the lesson at the end of a Full House rerun, trust, and moreover people trusting you, isn’t something to take for granted.
Take me, for example. I have this Aunt Autumn - who does amazing work in video production so check her out here - that has done really awesome things for me without even asking. And, in fact, she did the things with me slightly resisting because I’m #Humble! My Aunt Autumn bought a
And today today on Facebook I saw her post asking for a close friend or family member to babysit my baby cousin while she and my uncle are at a huge reception. I immediately checked my schedule - I am free the day in question - and as I was replying, I had the thought, what’s in it for me? And because I couldn't think of anything, I deleted my response before posting.
Of course there are small things that I get out of this, like spending time with my baby cousin. But the bond between #TeamLightSkinned can only go so far when one of the cousins can’t speak. (Can you tell why I don’t want to have children?)
As soon as I deleted the message, I had a change of heart. My decision ultimately came down to my relationship with my aunt. She’s given me a lot without much regard for her own personal and selfish gain. I want our bond to grow stronger, and let’s face it, I owe her one.
Ultimately she went with someone else to watch the baby, but what’s important is that I reached out to do a good deed for someone I care about without needing much of a selfish return on investment. So for those of you selfish bastards out there that want to be more of a selfless bastard; do favors for you close friends and family.
If you need a reason: by doing something for another person, they’ll start relying on you, and eventually, they’ll owe you a favor.
So go forth, be a selfish bitch, and do good deeds for your own personal gain. Selfless good deeds do not exist. Just continue pretending to want for nothing until it’s your time to shine!