Every human being on the planet is a hypocrite. Whether it's compulsive or it only happens occasionally, we all tell other people to perform an action that we're too afraid to do ourselves. For instance, I often tell my friends to just say "no" when someone creepy asks them out. But when I get asked out, I do the cliche, "Oh, I have a boyfriend."
Because all of us are hypocrites, most of us don't think about how a person becomes a hypocrite. So today, I'm going to line out the steps to becoming a hypocrite so that you can stop yourself the next time you tell others to do something that you would never do yourself.
1) Be afraid to perform a challenge task
The reason we're hypocrites is because we're scared to do something. Naturally, the first step is to be scared. Have something in your life that you should do in order to become a better version of yourself, but that is seemingly too difficult for you to actually do.
This task shouldn't be something that's life-threatening or a true, diagnosed phobia. No, this task should be something that common sense would dictate you could do, but that for one reason or another you just can't. An example, if your boyfriend called you fat and you're too afraid to confront him so you claim everything is alright. Being honest in touch conversations makes a lot of people scared, myself included. So this would be a great action to start off with.
2) Find a friend going through what you are
There is not much in life one person does that another has never done before. So if you're going through a challenge, chances are your friend is as well. Find that friend and start a conversation about the problem you're both having.
3) Tell that friend to do what you're afraid to do
Taking our earlier example, tell your friend to confront their partner about their feelings. Live vicariously through your friend! Convince them to do what you wish you could. Maybe this will cause you to take your own advice.
Or, because this is how to be a hypocrite, you'll learn nothing from your own advice and do nothing about your fears. That works too. (Actually, it doesn't, but you'll convince yourself that it does).
4) Never admit to yourself that you're a hypocrite
No one wants to admit that they're a hypocrite. You want people to think that you're wise because you're brave, not because you know what you should do but will never do it. So in order to be a hypocrite, lie to yourself. When people call you out, never admit the truth. Never!
5) Ignore all other steps and just face your fears!
This isn't how you become a hypocrite, but it is how you become a better person. So ignore your fears and just do what you should! Confront your boyfriend about commenting on your weight. Tell that creepy guy to leave you alone. Whatever it is, just do it!
Everyone is a hypocrite. But with practice and self-awareness, we can learn to face our fears and take our own advice. When you do, you'll feel better because you'll have been brave, and the wiser for it.