My mom is in the hospital right now. Not to make this post depressing, but it's actually relevant to the story. She was trying to sit up in her bed by herself, and whenever she does this, the nurses yell at her because she's supposed to get them for help. When my mom sat up by herself, she called the action "Pulling a Kennedy" because she didn't ask for help.
If you didn't read the Meet the Author section to your right, hi, my name is Kennedy. And I never ask for help. I've grown up seeing my parents try and do things on their own and refuse to ask anyone for help. I was also encouraged to become independent and learn to rely on myself, whether outright or inadvertently. So I've always had a difficult time asking people for help.
But about two years ago when I was a freshman in college, I was trying to produce a short film. The film was supposed to be a trailer for the book I had written and was self-publishing at the time.
I couldn't find anyone that wanted to act in the short film even though I had made a lot of friends and there were a ton of creatives at the school. Then on the day that I was about to give up, I ran into my RA and asked her if she would act in the film. She said yes, she'd love to help me out.
(If you're wondering, the short film was pretty terrible and I deleted it a few months ago. But it was my first one and I'm still proud of it.)
Since that day I've been hyper-aware of the fact that I actively avoid asking people for help. I run my life under the impression that "asking for forgiveness is a lot easier than asking for permission." And a lot easier than asking for help apparently.
It's difficult for me to ask for help.
But I'm getting better at it. I've noticed that when I ask for people to assist me on things like my YouTube channel or just to help me carry groceries, I get a lot more done. I'm able to do things I wasn't able to do on my own, things that I've always dreamed of doing.
But asking for help is still a challenge. That hasn't changed and I don't think it will ever change.
Still, I'm getting better at it. And I know now that when I ask for help, I'll get more done than I could have ever imagined doing on my own.
So my advice for you today, don't be afraid to ask for help. Even when the people around you are adamant about getting tasks and challenges done on their own, ask for help when you need it. You should learn to survive life on your own, but you should also learn how to share experiences and growth with other people.
Let me know in the comments a time that you were afraid to ask for help. Did you end up asking? How did the situation turn out?